No, that's fine, you were giving advice that would have worked for a normal person.
Abuse can be in many forms:
My ex husband did all of that minus punches and kicks.
The sister mentioned how he forced her into the shower and screamed at her until she cried to 'train' her into being a good wife. He told her after 21 she's useless and no man will ever want her. Constantly calls her and she has to pick up asap no matter how inconvenient it is. He seeks her out to make sure she is exactly where she says. All of this is abuse.