13 year old girl jumps off overpass days after father posts 'public shaming' video

Then people wonder why their kids grow up to be total assholes.

Here's my problem with this. Kids who are boastful about how "hard" their parents were? Tend to be colossal fuckwits, in my experience. One I knew openly boasted of his desire to perform a genocide against Islamic people and clearly had a fucked up relationship of his father. Yet he would simultaneously boast of how "hard" his parents were on him and how everyone's parents should be that way.

Or, take my own life. I'm sure my father has made this exact post, almost word for word, at least once in his life.

Publicly, I was a gem, and I'm sure he'd boast about that. In my head? I resented him.

Now, you might be thinking, "Yeah, but at least you didn't/did X, Y and Z."

Yes. I did. While I was a child.

See. To me, raising your kids that way, you take two gambles.

The first is that they will grow into agreeing with you.

The second is that your parental authority will cast a long shadow forever.

See. I've got a long memory. I have fond memories of my father going ballistic over accidents. Lost a retainer? No TV for a month. I also have fond memories of him barging around the house frantically looking for important objects he lost.

I also have a very fond memory of the first time I stopped taking shit from him. Oh it pissed him off real good. Nothing too fancy. Just his standard indoctrination on why x was the case and he was right and if I disagreed I was wrong. I just decided to stop smiling and nodding my head.

The look on his face when he stormed out of the room was worth all those years of putting up with his "hard parenting".

See. Here's the thing. Your kids behavior? The way you turn your nose up at "soft" parents and make self-righteous remarks about them "wondering why their kids grow up to be total assholes"?

Now, I'm no parent and I probably never will be. Worry it'd change my outlook and I'd be as much of an ass as my dad was. But I was the kid of a "hard" parent. Let me tell you something. They aren't behaving because they want to behave. They aren't not being a total asshole because they aren't a total asshole.

Let me let you in on a little secret. They're doing it because they are afraid of you. That's all. Sooner or later, they're going to stop being afraid of you. Then you will get to see the real person you raised.

But until they, go on patting yourself on the back for being "hard" on your kid and not raising an asshole.

Though I'd ask one thing.

Keep an eye on them as they grow up. This might take a while, as I'm really talking late youth and young adulthood here. When they are their own person, but still depend on you.

If you notice a dislike or distrust of authority figures other than yourself, I'd appreciate if you could answer that phone.

Because I fucking called it.

And the day when they stop being afraid of the shadow of your authority will be getting closer and closer.

But until then, enjoy turning your nose up at other parents and feeling superior.

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