16 and pretty much know I'm asexual.. Family says it's impossible and I just need to meet the right guy.

Since others have rejected my comment, let me just add one bit and you can choose to ignore it or think about it one day down the line.

Labels are highly problematic.

Your biology is much more dynamic than you realize.

Identifying as one thing now will create an identity that will surround you with friends and causes etc that could and almost certainly will change over a very rapid amount of time.

Extremely low libido doesn't mean that you need to attach a label to yourself.

It may mean that you don't get much exercise or sunlight.

It may mean that your hormonal system hasn't fully kicked into rage mode yet.

And, of course, it could be that it won't but that's unlikely. The percentage of asexual people that aren't ill at age 18 is almost too small to measure.

The concern I so ineloquently stated earlier is that you will become associated with this situation the way a gay teen becomes bonded with her new gay identity. While it's liberating and therapeutic for that teen to have someone in a similar situation to communicate with, your situation is different. Even if there was a social group for asexual teens (and I wouldn't doubt that there is) how many of them have chosen it because of health issues? How many have chosen it as a response to abuse?

And how betrayed will they feel when you proclaim yourself one of them but find yourself with proper sleep, exercise, and vitamin D in two years and realize that you have a healthy reproductive desire?

You mentioned that you want to learn about yourself now. You were right and I was wrong. I'm sorry.

Go hit a doctor. Ask her what's up.

Eliminate the possibility that you are attaching a label to yourself that you shouldn't wear.

Again - apologies for my earlier comment.

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