I [17F] just found out that my dad [50] has a second wife. I don’t know if I should tell my mom [45]. I’m very angry and upset.

I too found out at 16 that my dad was cheating on my mom after 19 years together. So similiar situation. Do no hold any secrets, this is not your burden to bear. I too had to tell my mother, except I told her right away when I found out, I came home, woke her up and told her. I too was so broken and didn't know what to do. Looking back after this. It tooks 7 years for my mom, dad and myself to have normal relationships again. I'm 23 now and it's just not becoming better. I did nothing to help though, try to not make my mistakes. Stay away from hard drugs and excessive alcohol, surround yourself with friends and love and don't lose your faith in love. It was just a few months ago when I realized I didn't have to live with my parents hateful and spitful views, be happy. Do what you want to do. You will no doubt go through a lot of stress in the next few months, maybe years, depending on how civil your parents end. Mine did not. I wish you the best of luck, I made it through, and so can you. This exact situation. I felt for a while that I broke up the family by letting the cat out of the bag, but it was already let out, don'r handle this alone. Talk to your friends, as a female this may be a little easier for you, I am a male and I ultimately dealt with this all alone, probably the reason it took so long to get over as well. Speak up, speak out. Don't stress, it passes, I failed 3 classes the semester this happened to me. If that happens don't let it set the cycle. You are strong. Have fun. Lots of love.

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