18/M my ex(17/f) broke up with me because she wants to focus on school?

Hi. First comment on this subreddit, so any feedback on my reply would be appreciated. The reason I'm replying to you is because my current and only relationship is somewhat relatable to yours. My 18/f gf and I 18/m went to high school together and met in one of our classes. (I'm her first bf too.) 5 months later we went to different colleges (2 hours away). So far it seems to be working out. What I didn't tell you what was in-between. Before college started we discussed how we would handle the relationship. (Believe me when I say I was surprised she didn't leave me for 'academic purposes') We agreed to make time for each other. For us that meant Skype, and a rare weekend hangout. It would seem as if we are committed to each other but who knows, time will tell. (and I do want to commit to her) I don't recall you mentioning distance from your college to her high school, and I'm not sure that distance is even an issue here. So why am I telling you about my relationship? From my (underwhelming) experiences I have some possible theories of what could be happening here. A: She actually means it when shes trying to fulfill her academic needs. I think option A is bullshit and if she actually cares about you she would make time for you. As you mentioned, a balance between school and you. B: (and again idk if distance is an issue atm) Unless you already are, she doesn't want a long distance relationship when she goes to college. Could she apply to your school? Maybe. It appears option B is a very common result of high school relationships. Perhaps she wants the oh so heavily desired "College experience." (I am very blessed my gf isn't about partying and hooking up.) C: You mention that these breakups were "all initiated by her really" I'm not sure if there's any denial here but I'll take your word for it. If what you say is true then I'd say shes not ready for commitment and perhaps she isn't really sure what she's doing.

I now realize I might not be giving advice but just personal beliefs and feedback. At the end of the day you (myself in included) are 18 and a million things could happen and there are tons of factors that could affect the outcome of your relationship. (you know, relationship stuff.) I hope this was at least worth the read. Good luck

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