This is ridiculous. There is no time limit on when you're ready to get married. Some people get married in high school, some when they are 60. Life is too unpredictable. You never know who you're going to meet or when.

The worst thing you can do is get married out of fear of being alone. I have a cousin going through a nasty divorce, my parents had a bad marriage, I've worked with people who are on their second or third marriage paying child support.

This is a huge problem in this country. We need to make it more acceptable for people to live at home and get married later when they are ready. We need better ways for people to find the right person instead of getting married out of fear.

People are scared to death of being alone and it's not that bad. I'm 41 and I'm still single and I've lived alone most of my life. Would I love a family? Yes, but I can't see any way I could have been in any sort of healthy marriage. I'm more scared of being with the wrong person then being alone.

Being single, I've been able to get into a career I probably wouldn't have been able to if I had been in a marriage supporting kids (web site programming). I moved to NYC and DC, places I've always wanted to live. I've travelled and tried standup comedy. I'm starting on a new career because I've saved up a bunch of money and don't have to work, while married people I know are stuck in shit jobs. I can still get married and have a family. I make sure to exercise, eat right, and work hard.

Was I happy all the time? No, it got lonely, but don't think people in marriages are loving life all the time. Some are just as miserable, but have no options because they have kids to support. What helped for me was to set goals. I wanted to get into building websites, so I focused on that and accomplished that. Then I wanted to live in NYC and I did that. Then I wanted to get into comedy somehow and I'm currently focused on that.

The people who you think are happy are putting on a mask so they don't think they are a "loser". They are going to sports games and bars and climbing the corporate ladder and they are telling themselves they are "happy" when they are just as empty as single people.

Life sucks for everyone, don't make it worse for yourself by trying to be a normie. Use your position to accomplish something a normie would not be able to.