(19 f ) is it true when they aren't sure what they're looking for they are just stringing you along every time?

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Either one or both of you sound incredibly difficult to deal with.

A few things:

Why put up with this? If the first few weeks goes this way, understand that the relationship will always be this way. Move on to someone that is more clear with their intentions.
Be upfront about your relationship expectations from the get-go and don't waste your time with someone who isn't on the same page. One or both of you will just end up disappointed.
You seem to constantly second guess him and make up his mind for him. You've told us that on multiple occasions that you said he's not looking for a relationship and that you said you are his backup option. Either you take him at face value when he says he wants the relationship or you move along. If you don't trust what he's saying then you don't trust him at all.
No, someone who truly likes you won't make you their backup option. Doesn't happen. Even if he does like you and decides to settle down, can you live with the idea that he always thought he could do better?