19 [F4M] San Francisco - Looking to lose virginity

While part of me is tempted by your scenario, I more just wanted to give some thoughts.

There are a number of good reasons why a person might just want to get his/her first time over with, but I don't think you should be worried that guys won't want to be with you if you don't have experience. There are lots of guys who will be especially into the idea of being your first, and also lots of guys who won't be too concerned about it either way. So I don't really buy your reasoning.

So many people overestimate the importance of virginity. Even secular teens in America have all kinds of huge associations with virginity (derived from film, television, peer culture, etc.). I can't begin to imagine how much more intense that must be for people who are/were religious and have all that extra baggage. The main reason someone might be concerned about being with a virgin would be the responsibility of making extra sure that it's a good experience for you, but honestly, someone you're sleeping with should always want to make it a good experience for you, whether it's your first time or not.

You should just find someone 1/ who makes you feel comfortable; 2/ whom you like and are attracted to. That could be on reddit, or it could be through other forms of dating. I'd put 10:1 odds that if the fundamentals are there (he likes you, you like him, you're attracted to each other), then your virginity will not be an obstacle to moving the sexual relationship forward. Just be honest about it with him in advance.

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