I (19F) have found the person (19M) I want to wake up next to every day, but he doesn’t want to get married until 30

In addition to not wanting to marry you, this guy isn’t even dating you. If you bring it up with him, communicate that it’s not to ask him out, or flatter him, or just to let him know - it’s because you need to know where he stands.

If he doesn’t want to date you, move on.

If he wants to date you later, move on and maybe the stars will align when later comes.

Do not worry about destroying the friendship/current relationship. It is already unsustainable. You make your next move and you can be with him, or learn the information you need to stop wasting your time and emotions on a fantasy.

This is the way I’d bring it up: Hey, we’ve been spending a lot of time together, and I feel like we’re more than friends. I want to be with you, and I need to know if you feel the same way, and what we’re going to do about it. I understand if you’re caught off guard and can’t voice things right now, but I’d like some clarity by the next time we see each other.

The next time you see him, if he doesn’t bring it up, you can bring it up: So, what do you think about the thing I told you?

And if he feigns ignorance: I love you. I want to be your girlfriend. What do you want?

If he ghosts you or ignores you then you know your answer.

Good luck.

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