He said he "wants" your parents to wait. He's stating a preference not making a demand. Maybe there are other reasons you have to think he's controlling but this alone doesnt give me that impression. This is a huge change for both of you. Becoming a parent can be scary and it sounds to me like he's stressed over doing everything just perfect. Tell him you understand where he's coming from but that you're inviting your family to come out. He might not like it but don't engage him over this with a fight. Also, I wouldn't extrapolate this right now. You're also going through a lot and you both might not even remember this a year from now. Also because this seems relatively minor you should stand your ground on this one. And hopefully he realizes that he was being ridiculous to suggest something like that.