Thanks for replying! Yes, there will be a dormitory available to me if this is the case. Unfortunately, I'll need to let the base know within the next few weeks what I'll be doing (coming alone or with him), as they'd need to set my room up if I were to be coming alone.

I think the issue isn't that he's not interested in being with me, it's that he's not interested in being responsible for the things he needs to be responsible for. He admitted previously that he was planning on "starting to be responsible" once we get to the base, but that's just not going to work for me. Are you going to teach yourself how to be responsible? Probably not. I told him I'd prefer it if he started gathering some responsibilities now. Nothing really came of it.

I'm nowhere near the point of thinking about divorce. Our entire relationship has been great, only disagreements, and there has never been anything that escalated into any sort of "fight". I'm content with how I'm treated and how he supports me emotionally. He does have long term goals and career goals, but honestly a lot of it is hindered by the fact that he'll be moving halfway across the country to live with me (hopefully), and therefore isn't able to start on another degree or even get a part-time job. This has been a recent thing (within the past 2.5 months or so) that I've noticed, and we haven't had the time to really sit down with each other and work it out or even talk about it, honestly...I have some free time the next few days, so I was planning on bringing it up and having a conversation about it. Of course we're not together at the moment which makes it more difficult & impersonal, but that's just how this has to be for now, I guess.