20M got kicked out, need help!

Goddamn your dad sounds insane and controlling.

I was in a similar situation with my parents. My dad was also pulled this shit and he always acted like I owned a great debt for bringing me into this world. One particular night as I recall he actually physically grabbed me and threw me out of the house and told me to leave the house and never come back. I was 12 at the time. My mother quickly pulled me back in and de-escalated the situation.

Also I also remembered one day I was carrying groceries in both my hands. I was trying to push the elevator button but the bags were heavy so I decided to use my nose for some reason. He grabbed me by the back of the head and smashed my head into the metal panel. Also there were instances of verbal and physical abuse with my mother and of course beatings. Suffice to say he was deeply flawed man, who I despised growing up and we had nothing in common.

I left my home to go live on campus at age 18. Went back only for the summers and by my third year I was able to get an internship that paid me. I never needed to go back home. After I graduated suffice to say all the bullshit over the years went away. He moved back to our home country and over the past decade I visited him only once and have not talked to him in the last year or so. The relationship is that of distant acquaintance.

My advice is to you is to stick it out if you can provided there is no physical abuse. Try to amend the relationship if possible. Give up gaming infront of him or in the house. I know it's painful but think about the long term goal. Finish your degree and become financially independent and then GTFO. Live your life like you want to. Once your financially free you can decide how much you want him in your life.

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