Nothing to be sorry for! I understand that a lot of it does sound fishy, its a very odd situation, that's for sure. I never thought I would ever have to deal with something like this. Especially for my first relationship. And I have left out a shit ton of details, just because it is a very very long story, and a lot has happened, so let me answer your questions and clarify some things.

First off, I mentioned that they were keeping their separation low key, for their kids, so they stilled lived in the same house. She would sleep upstairs, and he would sleep in the basement. The night she texted me she told me he was in the shower. I don't have any hard substantial proof that it wasn't him. But I trust that I know him well enough that he would never do anything like that. Plus shortly after she was finished talking with me, he texted me, and I knew it was him because he has a nickname for me, and he used it in the message. When I called him, I could hear the concern and worry in his voice to. So I truly believe it wasn't him.

She never told me about getting pregnant, she told him, and he told me. I know its a super fishy story, even I brought it up to him. But he said thats what she told him. So I trust him, he hasn't broken my trust yet. I don't think he would be willing to sign divorce papers right now if the child was his, before it was even born.

To be honest, I don't know why it would be best. It was his choice, I didn't want to stand in the way of it. His reasoning behind it was he didn't want to leave the child fatherless, he didn't want to just abandon her during this time, and he didn't want to do anything that would hurt his kids. I know any other man would never do what he's doing, but he's a lot more complicated than that. He always tries to play the hero, you have to know him to understand his thinking.

I think its good to keep in mind that I'm not in America, I'm sorry if I didn't mention that. I'm from Canada, I don't know how different the custody laws are from America and Canada, but basically the two of them presented their plans to their lawyers, and the lawyers are fighting back and forth before they finally create a plan both parties agree with. This could take months, years, if one party doesn't agree to sign. You're right, neither of them can prove the other is unfit, so its very silly that she is fighting to have full custody.

And finally, if she were to come in and tell the owner that his assistant manager (who thinks he is married) has been sleeping with one of his employees who is much younger than him, we both would've been fired. We work for a franchise store, so stuff like that isn't taken likely.

Again, no need to apologize. I appreciate the concern and questions friend. Thank you!