I [21 M] fall in love with my best friend [22F] , proposed her, she said no, we still talk.

This is rambly, so i hope i understand this: you're friends with Kesha, she's not interested in you, you still hang out around her.

You should take distance from her. While it's understandable that you're very close friends and you get joy from that bond, it's also one that's holding you back. You have trouble connecting to others, and in part because Kesha fills a certain void, you're not looking further. It also makes this a friendship that's heavy, because you need so much from it. When the load of social interaction is spread over multiple people, friendships are under less pressure. And then it's easier to move on to others. Which kind of is why you're still holding on after being rejected.

You're still in college, look into the mental health services, perhaps they can help you with your social anxiety. But also look into what else is happening around you: hobby groups, social causes, volunteering and entertainment. Find more people where you can share something fun. The goal is then to make more people on a friendshiplevel and lower the expectations you're having from Kesha.

OP, you're 21. You're at the age where you start to learn who you are. Making forever-promises is premature, in the sense that you mean them today, but in 4 years you realize that you can't keep those promises because it turns out those limit you. Grow as a person, on your own. Kesha can stay a friend, but you need to do you first without being in your own way. Kesha has to grow separately too, but she realizing her own ways of where she wouldn't be making right choices for herself now. Don't wait for her, work on you.

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