I [21F] am having a very odd (race?) and porn issue with my bf [24M] He feels like I don't find him attractive anymore and he's lashing out. *NSFW*

This is almost certainly about the black dude in the porno.

I'm not going to go into too much detail but I read a lot of email from dudes for a living and you would not believe the myths out there about black men and their penises. I have read long paeans in explicit detail describing black men's penises as plumbing snakes, trouser snakes, (the word snake gets used a lot), hammers, and other ridiculous notions.

This, of course, exists on a continuum. On the one end, there's the dude who has minor anxiety over comparisons of his penis to (insert random masculine Adonis here). That guy can be talked down off the proverbial ledge.

On the other end of the spectrum is the dude having fantasies straight out of cuck porn and/or 1915's "Birth of a Nation" and acting out because of it. That guy may also refer to black men's penises as plumbing snakes. Nevertheless, talking with someone like that may be more effort than its worth.

The call is yours to make. I'd say having a chat is wise, if only to figure out where on the continuum this dude resides.

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