I (21M) have been talking with a girl (21F) everyday for 4 months... Just learned that she has had a boyfriend the whole time. What is going on here?!

I personally think you are way off base. I would be perfectly happy with her as a friend however, she spent 4 months actively making sure I didn't know she wasn't single. Her actions to me are not representative of someone who is single, and she knew that I was interested in her. Therefore, it is not my fault to interpret her actions to mean that she was also a) single and b) at least a little interested in me.

If you were to go down any of those "signs she's into you" lists, this girl checks the majority of the boxes with a few exceptions. Obviously, those are internet lists and very generic, but the sentiment remains true.

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