The girlfriend here, will probably delete this comment soon so yeah. I’ve had this post saved in my hidden section for a while, and I’ve been rereading comments every once and a while. I made a comment on here once but deleted it, will probably do that to this one too. Just commenting to get my last bit of thoughts out after a while.
1) I’d never ask for his password. Your comment made me laugh though about that. He left out some details that I had but he didn’t. I will admit I have been looking at his phone screen though occasionally, or at least I used to. If I’ve seen anything that confused me, I asked him and he would tell me who the person was, what the notification was exactly, and showed me any information I requested. Everything he has told me matches up with what I look up myself and so I know he’s not lying about anything. I don’t see much of anything on his phone either. Just the occasional random person and an email I saw a while ago from something he used to use a couple years before meeting me. He told me about this months before the big issue that happened over the summer, so it’s not something he had ever hidden from me. Whatever the email was did not require him to do anything to get it. It was like a dumb notification from an old app. I also saw the process to get rid of them was a bitch, which explained why he had never done it before, but he did it as soon as I asked him to. They were from an email he never uses, but recently had to kinda reactivate for Facebook because his other account got taken down and this was the only other one he had. Never uses it, I never see anything come from it minus that one time, Ive never seen any strange apps on his phone.
2)Only reason I believed him was because the girls language was completely broken, she was deleting everything she sent me, and it became very clear early on she wasn’t being truthful. Also (and this will come off as blindly hopefully but it’s the truth) I know this guy too well. I know his schedule, I know his patterns, and I know he has no intention of cheating on me. Im good at reading people I’m close to. Time and time again I’ve been the person my friends can come to because I know how they think extremely well. Because I know him so well, I can determine logically when he tells the truth and when he doesn’t. He was truthful to me, and still is.
3) He has cut off these people. He did it very early on actually. They’d text him, but he would leave them on read and straight up just removed them when the boyfriend of the girl he was friend with (yes... she was taken while trying to flirt with my boyfriend) started to drag shit up after months and it was upsetting me.
4) He gave me his location, he tells me who he is with always, and is completely honest about people I deem sketchy. When someone flirt with him, he removes them from social media. He’s very open about dating me.
This is long, I apologize, but I just came to kinda maybe help clear up the story a bit. My boyfriend was an idiot, that’s obvious. My trust isn’t completely to how it used to be, but I’ve been getting better. There are other details that I will leave out just because I don’t feel like typing it all out, but I know he was truthful to me and he continues to be so.
I think that’s all I feel like saying right now. Idk how long this comment will stay up, but hopefully if you’re interested you’ll read it soon. Have a good day!