I (22/F) feel like i'm not doing enough for my SO (25/M)

Yeah, I really need to start paying more attention to what my boyfriend is saying to me. I really should work on my communication skills, because even that comment I just wrote.. I didn't even think about it in the moment he said it to me. I think we need do discuss our home situation again, because when we moved here and we were talking about me being unemployed and being at home, I said to him that I can do all the housework and he agreed with me. But i'm going to discuss it with him and ask if he wants to contribute in any way. I'm fine if he doesn't want to.

I agree with you. I need to stop with the excuses and really start to work towards my own future. After all, we are all in charge of our own lifes and it's not fair for me to think that my boyfriend will be fine with me being unemployed forever. When we discussed about me being unemployed, he said to me that: "I don't care if you are unemployed for a year.." But I don't think he really meant it. I think he was just trying to assure me that we are fine and I shouldn't be scared.

I'm going to have a talk with him tonight about the points you gave me. Thank you again, I feel like i'm seeing things in different way now. I feel much better! :)

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