(22/F) not happy with (26/M) boyfriends fetish/porn habits.

Good luck, I don't condone lying, but understand that asking him questions about what he does with himself in private, or snooping into it is invasive. That's your bad.

And you're giving him the choice to either lie to you about something you shouldn't even be giving him static about, or tell you the truth and get you calling him disgusting over his own preferences.

gross pictures and videos

You're really putting him in a no-win scenario. Again, unless it's impacting you objectively (diminishing your sex life, leading to him neglecting you), you don't get input. Think of how intrusive you'd find it if he decided to tell you what type of underwear you wear and makes a big deal out of not agreeing with your choices.

This is quite a bit worse.

any of my issues become OUR issues as a couple and he doesn't seem to care about them, which makes me worry he doesn't care enough about our relationship.

I agree, but understand that YOU are creating this issue in the relationship. And when you say he doesn't care....there's two things. First, he's not obligated to care how you feel about how he masturbates...at least not enough to actually give you a voice in it. Again, because it's absolutely not your business.

He should have told you that his porn consumption has nothing to do with his attraction to you or desire for you. He should have told you that you're the most important woman in his life, and that none of the women in the videos have his heart.

Then, he should have told you that he understands your feelings, and will work with you to get you over this, but that consuming porn is HIS decision, and you don't get any input into that portion of his life.

I say this as a person who would hopefully take that tack with a woman I legitimately cared about.

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