This is correct what you are saying but my point was that there may be more to what is going on here. I may not have explained myself well and left half of what I was trying to say out (my puppy whom I adore has passed away last night and I usually don't comment like this and I was not thinking). Too many people are jumping on the everyone is a narcissist bandwagon I feel like sometimes. Just my own opinion. I think there are other hot topic words that are over used also. A decade ago everyone was OCD or ODD. I also worry that hot words like gas lighting are being over used. I just think there is more to this than the parents being simple narcissists after working with previous cult members. It may be the father had some lingering behaviors from childhood that were carried over to adulthood and then transferred to his wife. I would be super interested in how big of a role religion played in the home. This may help the client be assured that they did nothing wrong but it was a pattern of behaviors that the parents had issues with (not saying they were healthy or correct but explanation and understanding sometimes leads to healing) . As a therapist, I would also never label a client's family members like this. It is up to the client to come to that understanding as they are the expert on their lives. I would look for behaviors and patterns why they did the things they do and try to explain them and ways for healing to be reached. I am not for sure how the clinical criteria for diagnosis could be reached when the parents were not present so I would shy away from diagnosing them or misusing clinical terms.