Yes but also further context we were drinking and there is a lot behind the other stuff. I’m not considering anything but a long engagement. He has hyper commital issues and I was aware going in but I also know where I stand on marriage and kids. That’s why I’m considering a long engagement, and us both getting the individual therapy we need because we both have relationship issues. He moves too fast and I stonewall and take control.

I’m smart for my age but I still have the hormones of my age that’s why I talk and make posts. What other people say rarely affects my opinion but bouncing my own thoughts helps me clearify my wants and needs. I appreciate the more polite response