I (24m) can share you my story about how I overcame depression and virginity. I struggled with depression when I was 14, but started therapy when I turned 19. I recently finished therapy after 5.5 years. What changed me was training (I was 23 then). I just told myself no matter what, go train. So I hit the gym 3 to 4 times a week. I saw my body change and realized I was in control. Me hitting the gym was the structure I was building upon. Suddenly school was less of a chore because I changed my mindset. It was me in control of school. Now I had two structures in my life to build on. That's when I understood the "go work on yourself" idea. I just went into a positive spiral instead of the depressing negative spiral. At 22 I thought I would be alone forever. At 24 I was putting myself confidently in places where women were. At age 24 I had a gf (lost the v-card), was in the shape of my life, finished school, got a job and was confident with who I was. Now I'm single again and next week I'll turn 25, but I'm confident about finding someone again. Hope this gives some insight and can motivate you. I know how criplling depression can be but don't give up!!