My parents reservations are (shitty) but stem from the fact that we come from very different socioeconomic statuses (my family is significantly wealthier than his). My mom also has some somewhat outdated ideals about relationships (from the moment they started dating my dad paid for EVERYTHING for her, and she hasn't worked in about 23 years) and wants that for me. Whereas I am perfectly fine with the path that I'm on career/moneywise.

I should have mentioned above, but my boyfriend is a US citizen thanks to his estranged father. He is currently getting unemployment benefits from the state (about $2,000/month), and has an additional 3 months of unemployment that he can receive.

I'm insanely frustrated with the fact that he didn't go all out and bend over backwards with my brother. But I also know that he's from a country where a lot of American conversation conventions (extensive small talk, etc.) are considered phone and insincere. Their initial meeting was not great, and I get that. They have basically nothing in common. But at the time and even immediately after, they seemed to be joking around and getting along (I knew that they weren't be best friends) so this all came as sort of a shock.

I don't think it was an unfair assessment of my boyfriend. I think that the assessment is an unfair reason for my brother to hate him and blow shit up.