Okay so I guess I should say some specific events that really hurt and broke a lot of trust between us.
At the beginning my bf would come to my house every monday night to cook with my mom and eat dinner together. The whole family loved him. My mom even accidentally called him my husband once. She even said he would be the best family cook one night. My dad was timid because my bf is so much bigger than he is and my dad doesn't know english. But my bf cleaned up my father's filthy backyard one day which was like 8 huge trash bags and it made my dad very happy and he grew to love him too.
There was this night my dad got so mad at me I thought he was physically going to hit me that night. My father got mad when he heard I wanted to move out and he called me stupid for ever getting my first job. Basically asian family and my boyfriend is caucasian. My family wants me to live with them forever and just go to school. My dad was thinking my boyfriend was tricking me into a bad life. That night I told my bf I was scared and I wanted him to come help me pack my stuff and move in with him. So he came to my house and my bf is 6 ft tall so he didn't want to just go in my house or it would look bad so he called the cops. Main reason why he called the cops was because my dad was shrieking at the top of his lungs like he was going to kill me. Reason why my parents were so upset was because I kept coming home like 2am a lot. Then I packed all my stuff into his truck and I stayed at his place for 3 days. I came back to my home because my family was so sad. I cried at work at one of those days. The thing that hurt me was when I asked about rent. He told me I'd have to pay. It hurt a lot because it was the night I got kicked out my house and I had never lived life before. I didn't have a car anymore I have nothing. I just didn't know how he could have the heart to say that to me that night when I was so scared and traumatized.
There was 4 months I left California to live with my relatives in Hawaii because my relationship with my boyfriend kept clashing with my family and I needed a break from the drama. (I didn't count the 4 months or else it would be a 9 month relationship). Plus I lost my dream job at a game shop due to all the drama and I cried at work and became unreliable so they let me go. So I went to hawaii to work at my aunts formal shop. I left my bf easy because he broke my trust from saying i would have to pay rent and also because he kept being sexual around me all the time when I keep telling him I don't want it. During the time, my family there convinced me to break up with him.They found out he smoked weed and about the rent thing and about him calling the cops. They told me he's too old and stuck in his ways. They told me it wasn't true love and that this was a calculating relationship about being "equals" for everything. Next thing that hurt me a lot was that in the 4 months , he never really reached out or made time to talk with me.
Then there was this time we were sneaking over to have a sleep over at his place and during the drive there i said i was worried about if my parents find out and he said that its my problem not his. And he's said that a few times before about random things. That it's my problem. It hurts me a lot because in my childhood I suffered a lot from abandonment. So I do need extra love or to feel special.