I (23F) am pretty sure I’m a lesbian, but I’ve been in love with my male partner (M26) since I was 15

There is no simple solution to your problem. You will always fantasize about women, but you love a man. I'm a bisexual man and fantasize about men often, but am in love with a woman who I want to spend the rest of my life with. I never had an experience with a man, and I probably never will.

I'll flirt with the idea of maybe arranging some strictly sexual outlet, but it's really not worth jeopardizing the love I have with a great person over something so primal. I can satisfy myself with porn and fantasy alone and I'll be fine. I know a lot of people who sleep around and are still empty people. Sex is a compulsion of our monkey brain that can be tricked into satisfaction without losing what is truly important in life.

In your case, it sounds like you've already won at that. I think you would regret leaving your partner a lot more than you would regret never having been with a woman at 45. Either way, you will struggle with some regret, but love > sex.

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