I always find statements like "he tells me I'm hot and sexy, but I know I'm not and I'm insecure about it" disappointing. My wife was like that, I would constantly tell her she was smoking hot and she would always answer "Yeah sure".. It kinda pissed me off. Me, her husband of 8 years, who truly and sincerely thinks she is amaizing is treated like a liar, "You have to say that, we are married"... No, I don't have to say a fucking thing, I say it because I mean it. I wish women would realize that we men in your lives say these things not be a use we have to or because it will get us pussy points, we say it because we mean it. Why don't you gals beleive us, is there someone else you would rather hear it from?

As for the sex with someone you love, it's a totally different thing entirely, you cannot compare the two.