I personally think breaking up might be your best course of action. You can both really see how you feel. It sounds like you're "growing" and he's not only not growing with you, he's creating a barrier for your room to grow. I think alone time for both of you to revisit yourselves sounds like the best case scenario here. I know Reddit is quick to tell people to break up, but I am just saying this coming from a place of having been in a very similar situation to you.

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Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised in the least if you leaving him makes him get his shit together and become more of the man you'd like to date down the road. Doesn't mean you will get together again. Maybe you would, maybe not. Maybe it'll be one of those situations (we've all been there, girl) where you left this man, he shapes up in all ways possible, then goes out and becomes a fantastic boyfriend to someone else.