That is something that we are TAUGHT through media to be attracted to.

Yeah I think over my life I've become very attuned to the media's view of beauty and became very influenced by it. I wish I wasn't influenced in this way because it only brings me misery :( Yeah I do wish to seek therapist who will help me change my unhealthy perspective.

The reality is: you do not need to be a Victoria's secret model in order to be beautiful. You are beautiful, point blank.

But why do you say this? Everyone has beautiful qualities but what makes you so sure that everyone's beautiful? I'm sure you met very plain, uninteresting, frustrating people in your life. I don't agree that everyone is amazing and beautiful.

Try googling actors, models or artists that are your body size, or that have traits that you have - they do exist, and seeing representation of people like ourselves tend to help with the whole rewiring of our brain with CBT.

I actually did do this before and I do agree it helps to see that different forms of beauty (which are similar to my appearance) are admired too.