You have chosen a bf, who doesnt respect you. Doesnt believe your reasoning can be valid if he doesnt understand or agree.

Maybe you have some unresolved issues you should work through before chosing your life partner because the one you have chosen is a bad egg.

In my opinion he didnt disrespect you - he just doesnt respect you at all. He acted superior, and as if he knows whats best for you, despite the enormity of your far more indepth knowledge of your father. Sure you can probably work on fixing bf, if you really want to babystep walk an adult man, through the how of emotional labour and bare minimums of respect. i.E having to teach someone at his age that when to him, his intentions and belief in reward trumps your boundaries, your feelings and opinions, he is not being a good person, but a selfish, selfindulgent one.

Can you even begin to believe your bf would be able to process and acknowledge that conclusion? No? Me neither.

Dump him. Save yourself a ton of future heartache.