3. I (24F) put my insecurities on my boyfriend (28M) last night, and now he doesn't...

I (24F) put my insecurities on my boyfriend (28M) last night, and now he doesn't want to talk to me. I don't blame him.

I am a member, thanks :) while it did hurt me I cant deny there is some truth to it, I am out of shape and would not be considered "hot" right now. He did say it very gingerly, like... "please dont take offense, but you know, I could say it but others might not necessarily agree". I get it, I mean I wouldn't go around bragging about how hot my SO is, but I wouldnt have a problem saying I found them attractive in public.

He was just being honest.

So how do you think I should apologize?

This morning the convo kind of went like:

[05-27, 11:34 AM] me: What time is lunch? [05-27, 11:36 AM] him: 1230 why? [05-27, 11:41 AM] me: I was hoping we could meet for lunch [05-27, 11:42 AM] him: No. I want to not speak or think about anything for sometime. [05-27, 11:43 AM] me: Do you want space? [05-27, 11:47 AM] him: I just want to have a drama free existence. [05-27, 11:47 AM] him: Apparently that's too much to ask of this fucked up reality [05-27, 11:51 AM] me: Okay [05-27, 11:51 AM] me: Can we meet for 2 minutes then? (I wont lie... i want him to be happy and stress free and considered breaking up to achieve that, although I do not want to break up at all). [05-27, 11:52 AM] him: No [05-27, 11:52 AM] me: I dont want you to be unhappy. I feel horrible [05-27, 11:52 AM] him: If you want to talk or whatever. It can wait. [05-27, 11:53 AM] him: There's nothing I can do about that. I just want some quiet. [05-27, 11:53 AM] him: Dont message me either. [05-27, 11:53 AM] me: _____(boyfriends name) please [05-27, 11:54 AM] Jawsh: No. It can wait.

I want to respect his wishes, but I'm not sure how to apologize for this as it has happened before. I also dont just want to say I'm sorry-- I want to tangible solutions so that this doesnt happen... ever again.

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