I [24M] don't understand why people put up with people who don't respect their boundaries in an interpersonal relationship and it's starting to warp my views on them

I'm sheltered because I wonder why people stay in bad situations that are seemingly toxic for the namesake of "love"?

First of all, I want you to immediately fuck off of that high pedestal that you have placed yourself on. Who the fuck do you think you are to have the audacity to claim someone is fucking sheltered off of one singular post on reddit you presumptuous fuck stick?

My parents were good? I was sheltered, and I live in an idealistic bubble because I can't seem to find any fucking reason for people to deal with toxic individuals other than the fact that they don't have the accountability and emotional fortitude to make the hard decisions that ultimately better their life?

Alright, so we want talk about trauma. Alright. Let's talk about trauma.

My dad physically abused me from when I could first pop up a memory until the day I left with my mom. My mom was emotionally negligent, and I would be lucky to see her for more than an hour a week at home. I was emotionally bullied by my half-siblings for being a mixed race Asian. I tried committing suicide in the 3rd grade, 8th grade, and 11th grade. I was raped twice. I suffered from eating disorders, PTSD, depression, bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, and dysthymia. I have a perverse lack of human interaction and intimacy to the point where any human skin on skin contact causes me to have a panic, flinch, or immediately cry.

Of course there are plenty of people who have it worse than me, but how fucking dare you tell someone they're sheltered and live in a bubble when you have no fucking clue the battles they've been through.

Also, let me burst you bubble.

For the rest of your life you limp on and cling to whatever bad habit it was that helped you survive the trauma because your brain was wired around trauma and abuse, so it's all you know.

I could cling onto the habits that go me through all of my pain. I could continue to drink, pop pills, self-harm, and push everyone away in the hopes of being "safe", but that would just be a fucking excuse to keep onto safe habits because of my own fear.

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