I (24M) keep having the same fight with my SO (24F) of 1.5 years about sensitivity

I had an issue like this with my ex that revolved around driving. He would sometimes drive a bit erratically, going very fast but then stopping quickly or veering/turning fast, always well over the speed limit, and lot of almost-bumper-collision type things — though he never did get us into an accident that way, to be clear! But it often really put me on edge in the car. I would ask him to slow down because I was feeling anxious and scared when he was going 15 miles over the speed limit, and he would argue with me about whether he was right to do so or not, not even caring if I was in tears or having a panic attack. I wasn't ever asking for anything crazy — My biggest request was usually just for him to drive a little bit slower or put a little more room between us and the cars in front of us. It got to the point where I was like "Omg I've developed a weird phobia with driving, so strange."

And while I definitely think I am a bit more sensitive and prone to anxiety in cars, I slowly realized I never got to that full on panic/tears in the car with anyone else but him, (was if anything immediately falling asleep on those drives) because if anyone else saw me getting anxious or uncomfortable in the car they would simply slow down a bit, even if it meant "grandma driving" (within reason, i'm not talking go against traffic here), because it was more important to them that I was comfortable and happy than it was for them to fight their way through traffic or get somewhere 10 minutes sooner. And that's what also hurt the most — that it was more important from him to be right than to compromise a little to calm my fears. He was fine with me being uncomfortable, sad, or filled with anxiety as long as he got to do what he wanted to do, how he wanted to do it; And that was our relationship in a nutshell, in the end.

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