yehhhhh, while I think it's great you have that relationship. In this case it's really not an option. It was more like I dated a borderline antisocial psychopath/cover narcissist who cheated on me emotionally and then physically with one of my roommates while we lived with another couple (and worse, she was a huge condescending bitch to me the whole time, which was funny, because she barely not failed out of a state school in "therapy" (good therapy program shes in to not realize cheating on her fiance with my ex is not a good idea) while I am an Engineer and was working a full time job, and out of the kindness of my heart, let her come stay in my apartment while she waited on her boyfriend to graduate from grad school as he went to the same school as me, because she had nothing valuable or worthwhile to do with her life.

So, maybe if he came to me with his needs I may or may not have been ok with it, but atleast we would have had a discussion and could have mutually decided to part ways or come to an agreement.

So then after a year of hardship and breaking up and not he decided to go all in and didn't want me to move out so we got a new lease together, whereabout 3 weeks after locking me down, he did it again, and again and again until I went insane at which point he called me insane and said I have anger issues.

Of course, being the aspie I am, on top of coming out of the emotional trauma I ordered lik 7 books about aspie girls, emotional manipulation, narccisists, psychopaths.

I think everyone could benefit and learn from these books but aspies, especially empath female aspies, could benefit from reading these books as we can be a little more vulnerable when it comes to relationships. So I plan to do a review of these books, who I'm also giving to my autism specialized therapist to review as well.

Anyways, I think at this point I've been cheated on so much that I'm done with relationships where my boyfriends are screwing other people. I think my next relationship I'd like a truly faithful one :)