I [25 M] with girl I'm dating [21F] for about a month, getting frustrated with her sexual "teasing". What's she thinking here?

I didn't give you any extra information on my pre-sex experience and it's not your business so I'm not going to, but I wasn't a 'tease'. TIL that I was just 'a massive tease' for over a year because I wasn't ready for sex until age 17 -_-

I just assumed from this comment that you felt i might be describing you. If the shoe fits..

I'm perfectly chilled. And it isn't meant as disrespect. A tease is a tease. Like an exotic dancer. What they do for a living is tease men for money. Now admittedly some men blow their proverbial load in their pants while being teased but this does not diminish the fact those women are professional teasers. Being teased to orgasm is still being teased.

wether or not it is a negative aspect depends on who you ask. Sometimes it's nice to be teased. Getting a slight taste of something is better than nothing at all one could argue. As for my experience i did enjoy it to a degree and admittedly i wanted more from her but i was a horny 17 year old virgin so is that a surprise? It ended up just being a part of the reason we broke up in the end and decided to be friends because we just weren't compatible enough sexually. It happens i get it. I adopted a policy after that to dump girls who didn't put out within 2 weeks time frame. Shallow maybe but it's what I needed from relationships.

You have to decide for yourself if your past experiences apply as teasing or not. I'm not here to judge you. But I call it like I see it. a Tease is someone who gets the other person going then leaves them hanging and feeling let down, Blueballs comes to mind. If you have given a guy blue balls it's safe to say you teased him.

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