I [25F] am done giving my coworker [27F] rides to and from work

So she doesn't want to be seen as a bitch for saying "no", so she better go sign up for a gym. Ok, where's the limit for this mentality? It's her not wanting to be seen as a bitch that lead her into giving her these rides to her friend for so long in the first place. When is this going to stop?

First I can see where you are coming from, but I disagree entierly. There comes a point in your life where you have to be yourself, no matter what the consequences may be. You can't keep avoiding the consequences of the truth and the right choices. Yes, it may bring you some trouble. But so be it!

What if the day that OP was meant to go to the gym, she fell asleep. And then someone asks why don't you take her up for a ride? And she will say what? Lie? What if the cowoker asks oh what gym did you go to and she says it's this one and cowoker goes, oh but I go to that gym and I didn't see you there today. Will OP lie and say must have missed me? Or does she explain "But today I fell asleep" and look like a liar anyway?

Maybe OP truly doesn't want to go to the gym, she wants to sleep more. She is just going to have to go and do something she doesn't want to do AGAIN? Or is she to feel like a bad person for not going or not wanting to go to the gym? Again the same situation as in the OP.

I can see where you're coming from, it's important what people think of you. I simply think that this this technique is pretty avoidant. To me, it's pretty close to lying. It's not lying but it's not saying the truth. It's saying the truth to trick people in a way. Just my opinion.

Maybe her cowokers would respect her for sticking up to herself. Who knows? Maybe they'd determine she only went to the gym because she's SCARED of what they would have thought. How much respect will they have for her then? They'd sort of pity her. I know I would.

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