I [25f] am insecure about my bf [28m] prior sexual experiences. It's making me lose interest.

They may be assumptions, but based on how quickly he jumped in bed and how eager he was right off the bat, I don't think they're completely unfair. I love him but I wished he respected himself more than to want screw any woman who he feels attracted to right away (like he tried doing with me) I think it's fair to assume I'm not the first woman he has done this with.

I don't consider myself conservative sexually because I believe very few things should be off limits sexually between two consenting adults. I don't care how many people other people sleep with, either. The more power to them. But I think I hold him to another standard because of my feelings for him. To feel sexual feelings for him and need to feel like he is a prize and something that wasn't not easy for other girls to get. I need to respect him in that way. My logic is that if he was going out banging chicks and having threesomes or licking anywhere on some random girl, then he's just finally decided he's tired of that and to settle with me, why should I someone sleazy like that? Especially considering I never did stuff like that. How do I know his exes didn't leave him for this reason? I don't. And that's part of why I have these feelings. I'll consider therapy for myself because I know I am insecure. Thank you.

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