I [25F] am struggling to cope with the way my wife [27F] of around 1 year's parents [60s] treat me. I don't feel like she's doing enough to intervene.

I feel like this is a really similar experience to what my parents have. My parents have been married for 12 years. My mum and Dad married 10 weeks after meeting. It’s fair to say that my dads parents weren’t happy. My mum was older, and already had a 7 year old daughter (me). They claimed my mum was a gold digger and made up stuff about how she was a terrible mother to me. They even tried to split my parents up.

I like to think, as the innocent bystander in all this, I can give a neutral POV on this.

My mums/your POV. I can see how angry this can make you feel. The love a married couple has for each other should warrant you a little more backing up from your spouse when it comes to their parents. It must hurt, massively.

My Dad/your wife’s POV. Standing up to your parents is no easy feat. No matter what, they’re your parents and you’ve probably been taught to always love and respect them. It takes a great deal of guts to stand up to your parents.

My dad did stand up to his parents after his mother said why is he sticking up for a child that’s not his (me, again) and they were out of our life for 3 blissful years. However, they’ve weaselled their way back in. They’re okay but still snakes. My, rather unhelpful, advice would be just cut them out eventually.

Sorry if this was really irrelevant

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