Hi They are not normal and perhaps they are signs of abuse but ...you play a part here. Sorry for that but please hear me out. Your husband seems completely out of sync with what you need. No you aren't to blame for his actions but you have allowed this to go on . Why? How does your husband doing these things affect your self confidence or you feeling loved? Can you tell him what you feel? What happens when you ask you to stop? I am not trying to lay blame but we all play an equal part in our relationships.

My read is that your husband is out of touch with your emotional needs and is running roughshod over them. HE is not tuned into your feelings and isn't considering them. Either he doesn't care or can't understand or connect to your feelings. He may have things going on for him. Perhaps he can't understand how upset you get or how his behaviors make you feel? That can make you feel isolated and lonely i am sure. Sorry for the counselor talk

I cant urge enough to get into a good couples counselor to help you understand your cycle and open up in a safe place. IF you can express - in a safe place - with a counselor how this makes you feel and how he has hurt you that could help. IT could help him connect with you and more importantly your feelings. IF he doesn't respond with empathy and understanding and is defensive in that environment then perhaps it is time to think about alternatives..

Good luck