I(25f) DESERVE to be yelled at by my bf(28m) of 3 years.

He is abusive.

Look everyone can lose their cool and raise their voice. It happens. Its shit to be on the recieving end of it, but sometimes people have a shitty day and things go pearshaped.

But, having said. When a person who you are in a relationship with does something like this. He or she, apologises, unconditionally, perhaps even verbally validating everything they did wrong and how it must have hurt your feelings. To show you their remorse and understanding of how it affected you.

He didnt do that. He doubled down like the shithead he is.

So the actual question is, what are you doing experiencing this again? Isnt it time you took some power and control back, and stopped waiting for him to turn into a person he clearly isnt. Enough is enough. Leave him, otherwise in a little while, you'll not add a wtf, after posing the question: Do I deserve to get yelled at.- because you wont actually know the answer. Thats what being with an abusive person does to your sense of normalcy and your own selfesteem.

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