I (26/M), was brutally shouted at by my girlfriend, (26/F). She experienced a panic attack after I tried walking out of the argument and ever since, she was using her self-destruction to make me stay.

Hi, I'm sorry about what you and your gf are going through right now. I think the best way to approach this is by taking a break. You should try telling her gently that when she can't handle her feelings well by herself, it's also very emotionally exhausting for you. And maybe just say something like you want to help her, not to abandon her, and that she also needs to help you, by taking care of herself to make the relationship better. A lot of time people become very bold to say something emotionally manipulative when they know it could be a weapon to make you stay next to them. I know this because I once did it too. Apparently the relationship is not working well because you had a crazy fight that led you to walk out. You should make it clear to her if she's not willing to make the relationship better but to have fight again and again rather than solving a problem, you need a break for both of you to appreciate each other better. I understand you are going through a lot and aren't sure if you still love her. But if you are in a difficult situation to just get out of it, I see the indirect and round way should be taken although it might take a while.

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