I [26 M] confronted my girlfriend [25 F] of 3 years about new close friend [~23 M] and she had deleted their conversation

I used to be in a relationship with a guy who was always in my business like you are in your gf's, and who was constantly getting jealous over things that were nothing and accusing me of stuff I wasn't doing. I got tired of it and dumped him. Maybe some people can deal with that kind of jealousy/insecurity in a partner, but I found that I could not. Maybe she's up to something but maybe not and the way you're acting just makes you look weak IMO.

I will throw in the disclaimer that I ended up in a relationship with a guy who let me have sex with another guy in front of him and didn't mind. And he had sex with another lady in front of me and I didn't mind. So I'm not really sure how the normals do it. I couldn't take it, that's for sure. The monogamy I can take or leave honestly it's the jealousy/insecurity/controlling bs that I couldn't take. I need someone who is honest with me, I'm honest with them, and neither of us is super jealous or afraid to be honest with the other person. If my boyfriend thought some guy was flirting with me he would say, do you want to sleep with that guy? And I would probably say no but if I said yes he would say, well go ahead, or he would say, please don't do that, depending on the guy, and then that would be it. None of this sneaking around demanding to see my phone messages, and then getting pissed off about them.

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