I (26F) don't know how to tell my bf (27M) my boobs aren't real.

Looks like the pitchforks have already been distributed, so I'm going to be downvoted to oblivion... but my first thought was that no, he won't think this way about you. I share some of his feelings on boob jobs, I think it's just gross and a sign of self esteem issues I want no part of. Partly for the selfish reason that I simply don't find fake tits attractive - I'd rather have natural any day, except rare scenarios I suppose, like yours. That's the step his brain hasn't bothered taking. He was ranting at something he doesn't like and worded it very poorly, possibly even in part to stress to you that you would never expect you to do such a thing for him. Like he may have been trying to convey that point to you, in ham fisted fashion, that he likes you the way you are and wants you to believe that.

I've had both... girlfriends who were all about the boobs and 100% certain they had to get a boob job to be more attractive - that's the unpleasant self esteem angle, having someone you care about not listen to you and be wholly convinced by others or media or who knows what, that fake boobs make you more attractive, when to many men, myself included, they absolutely do not. You might get more looks on the street but a lot of us would be less satisfied. In the context of this thread this paragraph could be perceived as mean to you but it is not, I know your story and do not mean it that way - you're clearly an exception where there was a legit corrective reason, your own happiness matters, and it is clearly not for shallow reasons like wanting more stares. But that's the thing, I know your story and still need to tiptoe around the point that I don't like fake tits. Yours must be well done and were necessary, so it's simply not directed at you. Telling him "um, baby?" guess what - would probably have him going oh shit I didn't mean to hurt your feelings that came out totally wrong I didn't know.

The other type is the girl who hates fake boobs, like with a passion. Like his diatribe would be a pleasant motivational phrase stenciled on the wall at work compared to the vitriol this girl spewed about fake tits. You were pretty much the devil, a whore, the reason men are awful, etc... if you had them. She could shut down for an entire night if any boobs so much as appeared in a movie because those sluts!!! It was insane, and I would definitely have to be extremely committed to convincing her I find not find fake tits attractive. My happiness was literally on the line. If he's had any past experience like that, it's possible this is where he was going with that - make the point you don't encourage them and make it strongly, whether he misinterpreted what you wanted to hear or was simply covering his bases assuming you had never had work done and had obviously at that point never expressed interest.

tl;dr he might not be a total scumbag terrible judgemental person, he might have been trying to convey to you that he'd never want you feeling like you need to get work done.

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