I was in your husband’s situation once, though I’m not married and I didn’t live with my then boyfriend. Your husband is at a crossroad here. Working in a field where you don’t get emotional satisfaction is draining to say the least. Indeed, your SO is not acting well regarding his lack of job and actions towards you, so you are entitled to do something about it. Find a day to speak to him when you are calm and rested, serious discussions can’t take place when you are tired from work. Tell him you feel like you lost respect for him, given the last months. Try not to put blame here, every person needs to be understood for who they are. Tell your SO that you are more than happy to help him find a new field and act towards this, don’t just say it and let it slip away. You’re perfectly entitled to tell him all of these issues, but in a helpful matter, not in a blaming one. Your SO seems to be rebellious and not conforming with the standard ways of society, which is not a thing to be blamed for. Some people just aren’t made for working in corporate fields. Be understanding and human, you could’ve been in his place and I’m sure you would’ve liked support. Also, you are right with the chores thing, he definitely should help you with those. Good luck, OP.