He kept insisting it was ok and normal and I could also have a penpal friend if I found one.
WTH? This woman wasn't a penpal, they had an emotional affair.
However, he lately accused me of not having atoned for my past enough, and that actually got me thinking of a very good friend I liked so much back then, which I had to cut contact with, because there was some romantic attraction involved and we had exchange nudes. That was about 8 years ago when I decided to change for good.
Ehm.... so why do you get in contact with him again? Why would you choose this guy out of all the people on this planet?
I guess I'm not really in any wrong here, am I?
Look, this isn't about this guy at all... Are you still sure about wanting to be with your husband? I mean it doesn't matter what he calls his emotional affair, it matters what you think about it. What has your husband ever done to regain your trust?