I [26M] am starting to get tired of my girlfriends [31F] party/going out lifestyle. Am I being unreasonable?

The age gap isn't that big and would be totally reasonable for a lot of couples given that you started dating when both of you were about the age of 21-22. However, given how immature and inconsiderate she is being in conjunction with the fact that she is older, I'm curious whether you've noticed other areas where she is incredibly immature. Because if she feels immature for you age, that means she is even more immature for hers. I had to double check the ages because 31 is too damn old to do something this absurd after being told not to/ she is acting much younger. At 29, I'm appalled that your girlfriend thinks this is okay and that you're even asking if you are the one being unreasonable. Again, I'm not saying the age gap itself is a problem/ it is actually a fairly reasonable one and you're both adults. What I am saying is that as you talk to her about her behavior, again, and see how she handles conflict and as other things come up in this relatively new relationship pay attention to indicators that she is extremely immature for her age or may be stuck in a place where she thinks it is okay to be inconsiderate to others or where she thinks that "having a schedule" is something she is above rather than something most well adjusted adults need to have in order to maintain a healthy work life balance. Because if she isn't maturing and you continue to mature that may end up being a much more significant problem down the line. Does that make sense?

The partying isn't the problem, the inconsiderate, irresponsible and disrespectful behavior is. If that's indicative of other areas where she is immature at your expense despite you articulating a boundary, then the problem is only going to grow.

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