I [26M] was told by my girlfriend [23F] of four years that she thinks she's polyamorous, and I don't know where to go from here.

It is no different. If you try to put up with this, you will lose all dignity you once had. You will lose your connection. It will eventually just turn into a loveless relationship.

Had dated my girlfriend for several years, really enjoyed my time with her. But after the began to be interested in polyamory, it quickly progressed to abuse. She would spend a majority of her time out with other people, coming home hammered, going to parties to be the center of attention, and it was the furthest thing from love.

And what if she ends up pregnant? What if you figure out it is not YOUR kid? What if she gets an STI? What if she spends more nights out with her boyfriend than with you? What about in 20 years when your wife chooses to get married to another person?

These are all things that can very commonly happen.

There is nothing different when you've been together for four years.

If you wouldn't have dated her, knowing it 4 years ago, you are in for absolute hell. It will rip you apart, you will really understand what it means.

A lot of the people in this thread at glorifying the polyamarous aspect - when in reality, it will rip you apart. You will never be able to get over it.

It is very, very 100% clear.

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