I [26M] upset a woman [20sF] and my friends are acting like I'm in the wrong.

Dump the friends.

I don't want to step on any toes here but most people who go out clubbing or similar are generally not very mature.

Again, I said most, not all.

I guess the best way to put what I'm trying to say is to tell a bit about my wife. She wanted to go clubbing when we were in college to have fun, dance, and have a few drinks. She quickly realized she wasn't into it because of what the majority of people who normally did it. There were those who wanted to get wasted every time, then there were those there to get laid at any cost (including drugging people)(we didn't know anyone personally who tried drugging people, just saying that's prevalent in that sort of atmosphere).

The bottom line was that these 'friends' weren't really interested in being friends and couldn't care less about those around them. They wanted some sort of escape from reality at any cost no matter how it affected others.

Again, I don't want to offend or seem like I'm saying all people who club are like this; there's just an extremely high concentration of such people.

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