I really appreciate this viewpoint and the way you phrased everything so politely. I'm probably going to come off a little defensive here but I'm not upset, I'm really grateful.

I see your point with 'making both births about me'. I can only write about this as I've experienced it, but point taken. I would like to clarify that this is not something I discuss AT ALL in real life. I would talk about it in therapy, with my parents, and with my husband and that's it. The only reason I even bothered to tell my family is because I didn't want David to have to relive the whole thing if/when my family members asked him about it. If this was something that only affected me and not David, I would not have approached the situation this way AT ALL, and probably could have kept it to myself.

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only brought up if someone somehow noticed you were acting weird on Zoom and asked what was up (a scenario that seems really unlikely to me)

They didn't notice the 'acting weird' per se, but they did notice when we muted/turned video off for a few minutes, and asked where David went when I returned to the call without him. Besides that, I agree it would be unlikely had the Zoom calls continued. At the time, we were operating under the assumption that an in-person meeting would be happening within a month or two of us writing that.

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I don't remember what I asked Betty verbatim, but I know it wasn't anything like the second question you asked, so I appreciate that you took the time to explain that. That was something I didn't really think to ask, and I can use that to inform my decision-making going forward.