Thank you for such a comprehensive response. The thing is that would make sense if I cared about him in a romantic way or pined after him, but I have no interest in being with him romantically or sexually. I don’t think that he doesn’t care, either. He definitely cares, but that doesn’t really matter because he is really bad at it. I don’t wonder why he blocks me or comes and goes, it’s annoying but he does it to everyone instead of dealing with it when something hurts his feelings. There’s nothing about that which attracts me or makes me feel like I should attach value or self-worth to his opinion of me.

What I mean by caring is, I like it when we talk, and I don’t want to do anything harsh or cold to him, even though it would make things easier. I seem to want him in my life as a friend, and not want to cut contact with him completely. This doesn’t seem like the norm in this situation, I’ve seen other people talking about it and they just feel angry and hate the person and/or block them on everything. So why can’t I do that?