Fine, if sarcasm makes you feel more comfortable talking to me then go for it. But I need to let you know that when you respond sarcastically like that, it feels less like you’re actually trying to help (which is why I’m here) and more like you’re just trying to be hurtful.

When I say I want communication, I’m talking about literally just not ignoring me. I suck at conversation, so I try to make up for it by getting others to talk about themselves, rather than just talking about myself the whole time. That’s a big piece of advice I’ve received before.

But communication is a two way street. If I’m the only one talking, and every effort I make to get the person to talk about themselves is returned with short answers, then there’s nothing I can really do but talk about myself. And because I’m such a boring guy (or maybe I just sound arrogant. Idk), talking about myself turns people off SO quickly.

And I do hold myself to that standard too. If someone texts me and says “let’s hangout tomorrow! Are you free?” I don’t ignore them because it’s uncomfortable to say no, nor do I wait several weeks to a month to respond because I’m just SO busy. If I don’t want to hang out with someone, for WHATEVER reason, I tell them as soon as I’m free and I tell them exactly why.

Men have always given me the same treatment, and I appreciate that. Most women don’t, and never have.